What's Your Number? Does it matter? Should it matter?

What is your number and what does that mean to you and in the larger sense, what does it mean?

I'm at or near 70 girls I've slept with as of this past weekend.
I've never been able to pin it down exactly (save to within about 5-7) after I starting getting into the upper 40's.
This doesn't come from a need to brag.
In fact, there's only a very, very, very few guys I've personally told my number to.
I've never been much for braggadocios behavior or telling loud mouthed motherfuckers my business.
Don't say what you don't want repeated.

Most of the guys who know me and have seen some of my cuter girlfriends assume I do just fine with women, and if that matters on some level, that's enough for them to know.

Those I've told, I say it like I do in an AA meeting: I qualify my experience and my perspective with my depth of experience.

I've slept with a fair number of women. More than the vast majority of guys I know, far less than plenty of other guys out there.
I've had a lot of girlfriends.
I've had a considerable number of intense, deep, long term relationships.
I've juggled multiple women and I've struggled desperately to try and be faithful.
I've had my heart crushed and I've done a lot of heart crushing.
I've picked up girls from bars, dancing, concerts, raves, clubs, the grocery store, craigslist, et cetera.
I was married and am now divorced.
I say these things to provide some qualification for my beliefs and values and the rules governing my interactions with women and my assumptions as to how to treat women to obtain a favorable reaction most of the time.

70 does not mean that everything I say is correct or more importantly, is correct for you where you are at this point in your life.
My perspective on women is entirely different than a guy who has slept with 5 women in his whole life, or even 20.

The consistencies start to shake down into observable patterns around 20 I think. I call it seeing the matrix.
That being said, the number itself only has meaning if you attach meaning to it.
What I hold far more dear than the number are the quality women which I have shared interaction with. Any confidence I have with women has come from my committed relationships, which is really the bedrock of where you learn about women. A guy who just goes out and plays the short game over and over where he bangs chicks develops a set of skills, and sure....it's gratifying in some intense amphetamine type of way....but those guys, are also the ones I see who cannot do things on their own, cannot function with other people collaboratively and are still very low on Maslow's hierarchy of self-actualization if you want to choose a model with which to examine their stock.

It's no different than the girl who can never step out of a relationship unless it's into another one or immediately runs to her ex at the first clamor of trouble with her current man or is constantly fielding a harem of emotional support from men (almost all women nowadays it would seem).

At any rate, if you need to set a goal to prompt you to press forward on a night you might otherwise quit, do what you need to do. Men are often outcome oriented and need a set standard by which they can asses "progress".

I didn't set out with a goal # in mind, but I set out to sleep with a bunch of women/get good with women because they were this mysterious group which I simply did not understand.
The further down you go the rabbit hole, the deeper the labyrinth goes and you realize that you will never understand them, but that is okay.

It's why we play the game: danger and play motherfuckers. Happy sailing.