Blown Out Preferrable to Friendzone

I have adopted some new policies going forward.

1. I would rather get blown out and lose contact with a girl than fall into the platonic friend zone region.

2. Anything other than a "No" is a "Yes."

3. It's patronizing to assume where a girls boundaries lie. A man will test them and trust her to establish them as they apply to him specifically.


She blows me off with the kind of passive "we'll talk soon" text that shows she's cashed out her investments for the time being.

I let it simmer on its own. I don't ask why. I don't ask or try to explain. Pressure and release.
I disappear and don't reply for a day or more.

A day and a half passes before I ask if we're still on for tonight because the last time we saw one another in person we made tentative plans.
The worst she can say is "No" and I realize that's preferable to the purgatory of the unknown.

Rationally, the presumptive answer would be a clear cut and decisive "No" b/c the next morning she had said "we need to talk", but then I remember that I'm dealing with a woman and so logic is a handicap on my part.

She sets a time constraint by saying *******.
I know this is something akin to when a girl says "we won't be having sex".
She's voicing a boundary that is arbitrary and may not necessarily be enforced later on if the interaction unfolds favorably but I let go of my expectations and make other plans to fall back on in the event things unfold poorly.

She comments something about how strange it's been not being around me then tells me when to be there.
This reaffirms that logic on my part is a handicap.
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My ex texts me and asks if I miss her.
I tell her I miss things about our relationship but not to take it as any more than just that.
She gets upset.
She's lonely and struggling in the dating world just like I am.
That doesn't mean, however, that we should be together and that is what she fails to understand.
Us both struggling in dating does not mean we should date or long for one another.

I haven't texted the other girl whom I had a follow-up date with earlier this week. I went a bit aggressive the last time we texted but again, my new policy is press the interaction and be clear about my intent.
If a girl is not going to be anything more than a friend I want to know that ASAP rather than embark on the conversations and texts to nowhere friendzone land population YOU.

I'd rather get blown out than friendzoned anyway.
There's something free-ing about not worrying about pressing things too far.