Women to Avoid: The Prod-der/Provoke-r

This was a new one for me, even at 3* years old.

We began dating and like the saying goes, "the Devil comes dressed as everything you've ever wanted."

She was physically exactly my type: petite, dark hair, choice ethnic background, post graduate level education, didn't want kids, amazing cook blah blah blah.

Exceedingly feminine. Subordinate in the ways a man like me prefers...yet, as time went on...she's a poker, a prodder.....and provoker.

She very subtly would disrespect me regarding her male friends of whom she as it turns out had many.
Her excuse always referenced her marriage and how her husband didn't care et cetera.

It culminated after the abortion with me drunk one night and her shoving me out of bed to the point that I threw her on the bed and held her there until she calmed down. I had never had to actually in any capacity put my hands on a woman up until that point. I gave her a pass because I was drunk and because of the abortion.....but as time passed and I had passing moments of clarity despite my going back out into the brink....that this woman would not settle for anything less than driving me to strike her at some point. It was a pattern imprinted in her brain from her first marriage and until I did that....on some deep level....something wasn't right, something was incorrect...it would finally lead to her attacking me outside of my house one night when I was actually sober and she had been provoking me all night by flirting with guys, letting them buy her drinks et cetera, so I tossed the open container she'd brought in the car out the window, let her bitch me out and when we got out of the car I'd hit my breaking point. I reached up to grab her behind the head to make her listen to me and she attacked me.

The really insane apart about it was she works in mental health. I stick by what my Mom told me long ago, be wary of women counselors, therapists, and psychologist/psychiatrists because they have enough book learning to rationalize their craziness. Mom has yet to steer me wrong with virtually any advice my entire childhood/adult life.

This kind of woman is exceedingly dangerous because one day you wake up and realize you are embroiled in a ridiculously unhealthy and toxic relationship pattern which vacillates between the polar extremes of her being everything a man could want but also a woman who will drive a man to strike her down in the ultimate show of dominance she requires on some deeply ingrained level.

Let me clarify: this woman is not outright malicious. She's not even aware of her man-hate tendencies. She's simply been hurt and recreating this same pattern. She's addicted to the emotional rollercoaster at a completely unaware level. She legitimately thinks she's much more rational than most women and has the book learning to support her reasoning. This is a perversely dangerous combination.

Getting myself out of this one was exceedingly tough and she completely mind/emotionally fucked me by the end of it. I was.....I don't even have a word for how hard she mindfucked me.