Smolder Young Man....Smolder......

You want to really captivate a woman?
I'm not talking about get her to like you.
I'm not talking about get her interested.
I'm not fucking talking about getting your dick wet.
I'm talking about having a woman literally losing her mind over you.
You must balance push/pull but rather smoldering intensity and abject callousness....with the capability of being sweet and gentle mixed in.
I actually don't really crave this.....but, if you want her devotion you must do this. You must be able to reduce her to tears if you want her back to nearly break when she orgasms. A woman needs you to provoke the high and the low.
Mark my words.


In short...the every nook and cranny of a rollercoaster.
Don't want to do that?
Fine.
Pick your poison.

I like (at times) having a woman enraptured to me. Further than that, however, if you want a hope of something as tempermental and carpcious as a woman to be devoted to you....you must be the center of her world emotionally.
And to have that you must be the crack dealer to her chick mind.
You must be able to adroitly balance equal parts of the above.

Sometimes...just stare her in the eyes...no not like a fucking serial killer....but with that silent voice that says you will wrap your fingers around her throat and kiss her until she nearly passes out....that when she feigns protests that you know she doesn't really  mean it...and that she loves you disregarding her token resistance......

A woman wants you to know what to do without you having to fucking tell her.

Nothing turns her on like a man who knows/understands without being told because so many motherfuckers are beyond clueless.

Further, she needs to know that you will not always do as she asks. Because no woman in her innnermost heart and/or vagina wants a pushover. IF she can always manipulate you....how can she trust you do stand up to the cold, hard world that no matter how independent she thinks she is...she secretly knows can get the best of her at times emotionally and/or physically.

A man afraid to upset a woman, will be beat the midnight intruder to death with his bare hands?
Will he strangle a man to death who threatens their family?
Will be provide in the truest most primal sense of the word?
Ignore all this recent social programming about conflict avoidance and whatever-the-fuck-that-shit-is and own who the fuck you are and be authentic.
If you're a bitch ass dude who is afraid to fight and you're okay with that, go live the life of a lap dog. Perhaps your wife won't get fucked by some other more masculine dude a few years into your marriage?
Perhaps not.
My language may seem crass or rough....but....medicine doens't always taste good nor do we like the sound of the truth.

Sometimes...simply to remind her that you won't always do as she asks.
Don't make an excuse. Don't reason with her.
Simply say...."because I don't want to."
NO matter her protests.....simply state it plainly without malice. DO NOT do this as a reaction.
Reactionary men, that is passive aggressive behavior also seems catty....because that's largely how women do things. They needle, provoke, poke, entice, hint, casually remark subtly under their breath et cetera.....


You have to be your own fucking man....and yet...be unafraid to sometimes show your raw desire for her....not to just get your dick in...but to own her...possess her....tame her....break her....and take her into your chest and protect her from the world though your cruelty to her at times....will not be the cruelty of the world but rather your refusal to meet all of her demands....

Go forth young man.
Go forth and smolder.

   - Good luck and happy hunting,
      - Yrs. in Christ