Obligatory Valentine's Day Post (How to Utilize the Day)

Rather than be a curmudgeon and hatefully lambast a corporately initiated holiday pseudo religious something or other day designed to drive consumerism (they all are), I'll focus on what's cool about Valentine's Day if you spin it properly.
Life is about perspective, no?
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I read online about guys facing the following issues with women: she expects you to pay for an expensive first date, she expects you to buy her (and her friend/s a drink), you get last minute resistance....et cetera.

If you've laid your foundation properly and placed clear boundaries in your mind and in your interaction with her this should be kept to a minimum.

I don't take girls out.
Let me repeat that.
I fucking do not take a girl out on a date.
I may do this after she has earned that from me.
I will meet a girl, usually for something free or super cheap the first time we see one another.
Art exhibit, museum, unlimited bowling, karaoke (I don't sing), Trivia....et cetera.

I also cram in a lot of experience in whatever/whenever that first date is: museum, shooting pool, drinks.....then the segue to my place to watch TV feels so unforced, so appropos.....the puzzle completes itself. By then I've mentioned some favorite show, some piece of art at my house, some-fucking-thing she has a rationalization to come upstairs and see before the day/night/interaction ends.
She doesn't want the interaction to end. She's so tired of clown ass guys with no game or overly aggressive neediness/trying to impress her that she's craving what feels like real interaction with a guy for whom she has attraction. Her mind is painting the canvas, her vagina is rationalizing sleeping with you rather than you trying to convince her to let you get that hot box.

If she has had fun with you the previous times, if she feels attraction, and her head spins with the way you grab her by the arm and she falls into your arms clinging to you in that fragile, begging to be taken way...she'll offer to pay and want to do so. She'll want to keep it even with who's paid for what.
I've seen this so many times I've lost count.
She will invest in the interaction and you will see this happen.

Again, some girls due to a lifetime of training from buster-ass-clowns will press you to pay for whatever. It's up to you to enforce your own line in the sand/set of standards/expectations.

When she acts aghast?
I guaran-fucking-tee you she has banged some douchebag who didn't do anything except compliment her ass at a club or worked the door somewhere, or just happened to be there when she was going through a break-up....and he got the milk for free.

She may have turned over a new leaf and have a rule about sleeping with whoever only after such and such requirement....but if the guy of her dreams or some famous actor showed up....all those "new leaves" would turn to ash in a nuclear firestorm of lust.

I've moved into bitter territory, alas.

At any rate, life is perspective.
Valentine's Day is an opportunity unlike other days of the year.
Treat it accordingly.

Good luck and happy hunting.
      - Yrs. in Christ