From ROK: Tell Better Stories to Engage Women More Effectively
And also: Active vs Passive Game
I'm sipping my beer and an irritating white girl with a great body catches my eye.
I overheard her at the bar and against my better judgment I take her to dance.
I'm reminded of Anchorman because, "I immediately regret this decision."
She exaggerates her hips, arms, and the steps and doesn't turn/spin when led, she also doesn't turn in place or with the steps and fucks it all up so I'm half slinging her around and half controlling her chaotic movement.
The stereotype about white girls and ***** dancing rings true for the 1,393 time.
But...b/c I am a man and have a penis...I go against my logical/rational sense and give it a shot.
Nothing ventured, nothing gained and such.
We dance a couple songs but my interest wanes b/c if she's this semi-awkward dancing, experience has taught me the sex will be similar. I'm in the business of finding what I want not banging my head against the wall to mold a girl who clearly does not follor nor take direction well (by her own admission no less).
That and she confesses she doesn't really like dance lessons (being told by someone more knowledgable than her about how to do something which she admittedly knows very little about) and that means she's not the type of personality with which I'll meld with if at all.
A cute black girl I've danced with before comes over. She compliments my hair and she's got a smile that could light the night sky. Later I'll see her motioning to me and some other girls discussing me.
I've been out of the scene for a couple years and there's not a lot of infusion of new guys that can dance so the feelers are out as to who will get the first crack at me. I haven't really engaged the different groups of female dancers beyond individually dancing. Best to keep it mysterious for as long as possible. I need to ascertain the friend networks of who knows who and who hates who and who used to bang so and so's ex and all that girl world jazz to maximize my ability to swoop in the future.
I grab a thin waif-like girl who would look better if she rocked a pixie hair cut, and despite the fact she smells like cigarette smoke, I actually like the way she dances. Her touch is light, her frame is great and she seems unrushed in her turns yet virtually always on time/beat/step.
She is dare I say, graceful. A compliment I do not often lobby nor even think in regard to most dancers.
We dance another style of dance, her head pressed against mine and her palm resting right over my heart. If I had one I might feel something other than curiousity and potential....but as it is.....I settle for her hand on the back of my neck and a broad smile as we spin to the music.
I dance with other girls and though the pickings are more slim than I'd like, I'm establishing my value in the scene and I'm working my other passive attraction non-verbal cues. I don't always ask their names which throws them off b/c the other guys talk to them fucking the whole time they dance with 42 rapid fire questions ultimately showing they come from a place of neediness.
Which as anyone knows....a woman worth having despises roughly neediness as much as she loathes weakness and/or indecisiveness.
Not every night is ragnarok amazing-ness epic legendary from a bullshit Hollywood Hangover Part II or Project X movie.
Some nights you're putting pennies in the piggy bank of a later moment of execution and precision.
In a room full of shouts, the whisper is the loudest.
Besides, the new girl I'm sleeping with has tempered my lust for a short time.
Fresh-faced girl if she was nearby would definitely have some of my time and dick taken up but she's a bit of a drive away.....
As it is, I've pressed through the harder (I hope.....) phase of getting back in the saddle.
Coming out of nearly 2 years of fidelity and marriage, the approaches I slogged through were tough at times. There was a lot of blow out and a lot of immediate dismissal from girls, some of whom I'd normally not even look at twice or notice.....which was tough for my ego to be sure.
And that pressing point, the sticking moment, the moment where many would quit or take time off or rationalize why they should try later or that girls are just bitches.......I silence the rationalization monster/doubting Thomas and decide fuck the setbacks, I will press forward and trust in the process and know that this will pass and I will enter into the light after exiting the cave.
November I nailed the stripper in ******** (same day)
December I nailed homegirl from the ***** (2nd day)
Start of February I nailed the newest waif (3rd day)
I don't know what's a good average as I don't know how much I trust on the internetz, but I'd say roughly one per month is not bad given my personal time out of the game. I've read if you've had sex with more than 5 women, 10, or 15 you move into the vast minority of men in terms of sexual partners.
I used to care about the number, like it was representative of something, but as I'm in the neighborhood of 70, I look back and I've become far more engaged by the notion of quality and girls with whom I forge a genuinely unique chemistry and connection.
Once you press pass the 20-50 range, the specific number is....irrelevant.
In retrospect, I've done well given my time out of the game and general rustiness.
But, I feel there have been missed opportunities. My ability to juggle is at a current low as it's been quite awhile since I had several girls in rotation.
I suspect that will change shortly.
What I like about Tyler (video below) is he acknowledges the need to grind, to work, to slog through hours and hours of the process. He advocates all-consuming extended periods of dedicated study and practice.
No short cuts but rather DEDICATED STUDY AND GRIND.
What will you do today to sharpen your skills?
Lay the foundation now and build the bridge before you need it.
Good luck and happy hunting.
I'm taking homegirl to a **** bar then perhaps cook us some dinner, get ****, and ravish her body until I sleep deep, dark, catatonic sleep with a cute, petite, dark-haired girl pressed up next to me.
I look back on my failures and know that because of them I deserve my success. I have earned success as my right by putting in the time, sacrifice, effort, failure and deliberate study. Success is guaranteed to no one, yet you can make sure that when it happens it is deserved.
- Yrs. in Christ
Depends on what you're trying to do. If you're going for notches, 3 in 4 months doesn't sound good. I had that in January. But I think we're both in the looking for quality girls for some kind of relationship boat, so it's a bit irrelevant. If you can find one person worth that in 4 months, I'd say it's a success.
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