Breaking Rules: The Problem With Studying Game Online

Breaking the rules:

I looked back over my posts this week and saw that I've broken some major PUA rules in my interactions with the new girl.

I had ***** dinner with her.
I had her over to my place and made dinner.
I didn't press for sex the first time she was in my bed.

I have to consider this analagous to a writer who breaks the rules with purpose rather than a writer who makes mistakes due to ignorance.

I asked her to have ***** dinner with me after our first time meeting had stretched from roughly 7 til 3 something AM on a ***day night. I also up front framed it as my favorite sushi place is half off, want to be the other half of my order?"
I had her over to my place and I made dinner asking her only to bring the wine and after a lot of investment on her part both in the form of buying drinks and physical escalation.

I didn't press for sex after I got some LMR the first time she was in my bed, but all the other signs she gave me showed she was invested in the interaction. The next time I got minor LMR but that dissipated as quickly as the Polish resistance to the German-Nazi war machine.

When I do occasionally get LMR it is b/c the girl without exception wants to long term me/lock me into a relationship. She knows the pump and dump is possible despite her feelings and emotional turbulence/turmoil inside, and so they hold out slightly long enough to try and get me to invest enough to commit.
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That's the problem with game in an online reading/study sort of way.
Comparing the game necessary to a guy like me who's slept with 60+ girls is not going to be as productive for a guy who's been with 4 girls and is in his mid 20's.

There are so many fucking differences between how we non-verbally act, move, carry ourselves, then you delve into tonality of voice, speed of speaking, cadence, and storytelling skills, wit, experiences....and you're looking at two virtually un-identical animals/organisms/creatures.
My attitude about game and skill with women acquisition stems from my time in combat sports and believing in a process, a system whereby there are honestly no short cuts. There is only often trial and error and the grind and the belief and perserverance in the direction of a goal far, far, far down the line.

I don't see myself as a natural, though truth be told I always had infrequent success with women through the end of college.
It wasn't until honestly after college that I began to pursue the ability and viewed it as a pursuit.
From the start of college to the end I'd been with roughly 15-20 girls.
In the ensuing 7 odd years I've been with 40 more.

I have said and will continue to say, as Roosh has recently put forth if you want to attract women and do better with women, be a man worth being interested in: have a cool hobby or two, exercise regularly, enjoy interacting with people and new experiences, travel....as a result of these things you will walk differently, talk differently, interact differently...and you will find more success.

These things will do you well in the long run, but in the short term they are endeavors and places that seem far away on the timeline of your life and even moreso on a daily basis.

But, that doesn't sell any better than a doctor telling an obese person to change their mental attitude, belief, and daily existence by exercising and eating healthy to lose weight.

I see negs and other gimmicks or routines like the Gastric Bypass of male/female dating dynamics.
They may work short term and that can occasionally be a segue to a permanent change, but all toooften they only hide the underlying cause of the obesity or the neediness, or the loneliness until it comes back ten fold.

As it is, now that I've slept with homegirl...I don't know if it's phermones or some other wordless, silent, inarticulable quality, but my past almost 8 years post college tell me in short order more girls will come out of the woodwork now that I'm a marked/made/taken man.

I don't believe in many absolutes, but this is one I have seen in practice and experienced so many times I cannot doubt it's veracity. Whatever neediness and fallout from my marriage ending has likely begun it's fade from my non-verbal cues and my subconscious...and as such...girls will begin to respond and react with more positivity.

Good luck and happy hunting.
   - Yrs. in Christ