Daily Links & Thoughts on Maintaining Desire

Links for the Day:

It's not always what you say, but rather, how you say it, gentlemen:


See inside the near sociopathic mind of a woman on full blown tilt:

Go Dutch. It sounds pretty awesome.

Fucking lift weights and train in a combat sport, bro. Seriously.
It's good for you and good for your dick. The numbers don't fucking lie.
Stop being a pussy and start working the fuck out.
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For awhile there, I was a super laid back, super happy and laissez-faire guy.
Predictably, the girl I'd met when I was a rampaging alcoholic who did things like get arrested and get into fights....she broke up with me, without a doubt b/c I had become too nice, too willing to capitulate, too willing to stay rather than walk away.
I flipped the script on her, and not in a good way. I was no longer the guy she intrinsically wanted, the emotionally distant, unavailable, didn't give a fuck about society/expectation-challenged man.
She broke it off and y'know...that's fair. I can't hold that against her.
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Fast forward to my current girl.
She is an eternal ingénue, a full blown coquette, and one of the most capricious girls I have ever met....and this is the type of girl I have always dated.

It has taken every bit of my game and analytical skills to wade through the legion of competitors and suitors to have her sleep with her head on my chest and curl up on my arm as we traipse through daily life.

I have also realized that now, the real work begins.
Maintaining interest with a girl who is by her very nature mercurial, tempestuous, girlish, and in love with love, requires near constant push/pull. Periods of deep comfort followed by exciting, abrupt changes and challenges that leave her guessing.

Short game vs Long Game:
We've fought several times in the past few days, a lot of tension, a lot of emotional angst...now it's time to release that pressure, take her out for a drink, and fucking ravage her tonight whether she feigns initial disinterest or not.
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Sample ways to keep your girl dialed in:
Text her as tersely as possible what time to be ready, what to wear, that you'll have the dinner and venue planned. Tell her to have a drink while she gets ready.
Keep her waiting a good 20 min's....then arrive with a grin and don't even respond to her faux lamentations that you kept her waiting. The tension has built and she is grateful.
Cat-string theory.
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Tell her you bought her something to wear for you, on your way home from work.
Tell her when you'll be home.
Keep it simple, not elaborate. Don't make a big production out of it.
Stockings, thong, and a bra are a sure bet. . It's playful but sexy and as such it will manifest when she puts it on for you. You can go simpler and just a fitted V-neck t-shirt and defeat her expectations of some elaborate garter set that media and film and the like has crafted as the expected narrative in such a situation.
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When you meet her places, walk up behind her, grab her firmly by the waist, and before she can turn around, whisper in her ear "you look fucking amazing" or "come here often?"
When she goes to turn around, don't let her, give her a strong, firm hug then allow her to turn and face you and look deep into her eyes.....anyone looking will be jealous and she will feel special and she will be grateful.
The vast majority of men don't know how to do this, and the vast majority of women desperately need and want this and she wants you to fulfill that ache, that need, that desperate clamoring desire for security, dominance, safety, and trust.
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Watch all the fucking hipster rom-com's you want, bro. That shit is pure fantasy and lies.
Research shows women don't even know what physically arouses them.
You think some indie-flick gets those panties sopping wet?
I feel nothing but mixed disgust and pity for those guys that are so wildly out of touch with their masculinity they deserve said women who would rather be right and politically correct than happy and open and honest about their needs and desires.