Trump Her (Use Sparingly)

There are two things you can do that when done with genuineness, will trump virtually every shit test a woman can muster: cheating on her and/or walking away.


Period.


I don't use them to manipulate (though I once did).
I use them to draw my Alamo-style line in the sand.


Women bluster, they accuse, they insinuate, they repeat the inanity and insanity of their coterie's terrible advice/instagram wisdom.....and this is all well and true.


That being said, it is your choice to tolerate it.


You can simply walk away.


One I don't purposefully use, but has reaped insane benefits and whipped a girl back into shape is the cheating aspect.


1) Walking Away - a man who is unmoved by her emotions the vast majority of the time, will be called a robot, inhuman, callous, uncaring, a sociopath (heard that one a tooooooooon of times)....but never have I had a girl leave me because of that. In her heart, deep in her woman brain....she wants a man who doesn't cave to every whim. She wants a man who isn't easily swayed by women and their emotional tempests.


2) Cheating on her - I can't tell you how many times I've cheated on a girl only to have her become a way more awesome /partner after the fact. I can't tell you how little I even had to apologize. I don't really apologize. I let it sit in the air. I tell her I'm sorry with the same tone that I would use if I was pleading guilty in court: meaningful, contemplative, but NEVER pleading.
Girls are constantly being shown by lesser men that they can have whatever they want (realistically the vast 90% of dudes who hit on them, hell, ask an honest girl and she'll admit 95% of the guys who hit on her she has marginal if any interest in at all) so on one hand she has this constant affirmation for free from lesser men, and therefore a semblance of an abundance mentality. Men, however, think they need to earn a woman with this bizarre code of chivalry but this was when the premium was on women of nobility and men would court her et cetera. We live in different times, my good friends and readers. You are not bound by this code. Lord Byron and others also showed us if you're up to date on your classics that that code of chivalry business can still be trumped by the inveterate rake.

No one likes those who plead. No on respects those who plead. Every show you see on TV, every movie where the cheating man pleads.....the woman resents him EVEN MORE than she would otherwise.


I have tried both methods after the fact and unequivocally, I can tell you, if you're sorry, she will punish you. If you are not sorry (I usually am only sorry up to a point) then do not apologize because it is the "right" thing to do.
The right thing to do is own the fact that yes, you cheated, in fact, it may happen again eventually, but that it does not affect your larger feelings/body of feelings for her.
Coming from me, I guess it works, a couple girls (literally two) over the years bailed/balked and walked away. The rest? They simply told me to choose and then set about laying down some ground rules going forward.
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I don't know what to tell you. It doesn't have to make sense, and it doesn't have to be something you like for it to be true.
In fact, trying to understand it rationally only makes you doubt it and reject the evidence of your eyes and years.
I go by what women do and what I have historically seen them do, not out of feelings or what I want them to do/be like.