Lot of truth HERE
The good book apparently does make some sense from time to time:
"It's better to live alone in the wilderness than with a quarrelsome, contentious wife."
Better predictors of Divorce are finally being substantiated and empirically measured and tested, HERE.
You have to be cruel to be kind, HERE.
Some old but fresh (to me anyway) real talk HERE
The very same question I've posed to some women that ultimately they will refuse to acknowledge or blame on historical patriarchy et cetera HERE
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I've been grinding it out at the gym something special and strenuous, even for someone as dedicated, single-mindedly focused and inwardly masochistic as myself. I take a day off to feed my brain rather than over stress my body physiologically to the point where sleep and sex become problematic. If you've never trained to the point where you have difficulty sleeping and lose your desire for sex, then you've never really trained hard.
You should try it and stop rationalizing your own weakness.
I can feel some distance having developed between my girl and I. I can't pinpoint the source definitively, but I'm very nearly certain it has to do with having shown some emotions on my sleeve lately whilst dealing with my ex-wife. It's time to over-alpha my frame back into the kind of man my girl expects me to be. It's a sad reality that I have to play this charade or decide if I'm willing to do this from time to time to temper her capricious whimsical needs.
I didn't realize it when I got married but I secretly hoped marriage would be some garden of Eden whereby men and women lived in relative harmony....if anything, I found marriage is even MORE work than a relationship. Men think marriage is the finish line.
Bro, you could not be more fucking wrong.
It is the beginning of fighting a battle with a monstrously illogical creature which now has divorce/family court on her side should you slip up and let her gain the upper hand.
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I'm capable of some time spent in oneitis land like any other secret hopeless romantic.
Deep down, I love women. I love them for their mercurial ways because they are a puzzle with no concrete nor definable solution. It's like being addicted to puzzles with no correct answer.
For about 2-3 months when I meet a girl who is wholly my type, I am semi living in oneitis land, but eventually, either she presses me to the point or I simply see the numbers in the matrix and the moment arrives when I look back over the other very pretty, very cool, very quality girls and realize....the tie that binds....and I accept that if I need to I will walk away.
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Marriage was one of the dumbest decisions I have ever made and Divorce was one of the smartest. That being said, having gotten out relatively unscathed minus some deep emotional scarring, I learned a lot about relationships, women, myself, and long term that I do believe in marriage and being in a real, meaningful relationship beyond just when it's convenient or fun. You just have to very well and completely understand the nature of the beast that you're getting into bed with literally and legally.
That being said, for a man with money, the smartest thing you can honestly do....is get a vasectomy, and never get married if you truly value your autonomy and don't feel like bleeding years of your life energy and sanity in a protracted divorce battle that will age you like nothing else I've experienced.
It's like giving the keys for a powerful Formula 1 racecar to a toddler and expecting them to not horribly crash it into a wall at 200mph.
Giving power to a woman, and legally, by virtue of marriage and divorce/family court law, you are doing just that, in the form of a legal contract with far-reaching and punitive consequences and aftermath......is just not a sound decision.
Call it what you will.
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I feel out of sorts. It's a semi-rest day from the gym and I know that I've been overtraining and the physiological stress is getting to me as well as the emotional stress of dealing with my ex-wife.
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